TEN TRULY TERRIFIC TIPS FOR RAISING TODAY’S TEENS 

TIP  # 1   -   Questions :  “HOW ARE YOU JUDGING YOUR TEENAGERS?”   “WHAT 
                     PERCEPTION DO YOU HAVE OF THEM?”   “WHAT IS GETTING IN THE 
                     WAY?" 
TIP  # 2   -   Listen. 
TIP  # 3   -   GET their point of view.
TIP  # 4   -   Get yourself out of the way - this is not about you...it's about THEM!
TIP  # 5   -   They are still just children. 
TIP  # 6   -   Stop trying to be right. 
TIP  # 7   -   BE a role model.  
TIP  # 8   -   Do you tell your teens that you respect them? 
TIP  # 9   -   Accomplishments vs Qualities.
TIP  #10  -   Have FUN! 


THE TOP 10 TEEN ASSETS 

The respected research organisation, The Search Institute, has done a study that 
indicated 40 possible assets that children can have that predict they will grow up to be 
caring, responsible and successful people. Here are some examples:

ASSET  # 1 -  Support 
Teens talk with their parents and know that they are heard. They know their neighbours, 
and know that their neighbours and community care about them.

ASSET  # 2 -  Empowerment
They see themselves as valued by the people and community around them. They see 
themselves as able to have an effect.

ASSET  # 3 -  Contribution 
They spend an hour or more every week contributing to their community in one way or 
another.

ASSET  # 4 -  Boundaries & Expectations 
Both at school and at home there are clear rules and consequences. The adults around 
them model positive, responsible behavior and convey that this is expected of the teens, 
also.

ASSET  # 5 -  Constructive Use Of Time 
They spend three or more hours a week in music or other arts lessons or similar activities, 
and fewer than two nights a week "hanging out" or doing nothing.

ASSET  # 6 -  Commitment To Learning 
They are motivated to do well in school and read for pleasure more than three hours a week.

ASSET  # 7 -  Positive Values  
They are concerned about social issues such as equality, hunger, and poverty. They are 
not involved with drugs or alcohol and are not sexually active.

ASSET  # 8 -  Social Competencies  
They know how to make plans and choices, how to relate to others, and how to resolve 
conflicts without violence.

ASSET  # 9 -  Positive Identity 
They have high self-esteem. (This is not the same thing as arrogance, which is often a 
cover-up for low self-esteem.)

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